We had just north of 4,000 visitors this year at Butterscotch Sundae (that is, for those of you keeping track, a truly impressive decline from years past). The majority of those folks were from the the United States, Australia and Canada. And also one each was from Saudi Arabia, the Maldives and Norway, among other places.
Our Mondays are very laid-back now that co-op has ended for the year. Just the way I like it.
The kids were finished with everything but their MCT[ref]Michael Clay Thompson’s ‘Grammar Island’[/ref] language arts by 10:30am. The only reason they didn’t get to that earlier was that I decided to revise my schedule for the program, because we’d gotten way behind on what I’d planned to do with it. That’s what I get for tying things to specific dates. It was nearly noon by the time I’d finished and printed my now date-free revision, so we waiting until after lunch to settle onto the couch for predicates, subjects and Latin stems. We finished up around 1:30, and the kids had the rest of the day to do with as they pleased.
Tuesday
Pete wanted to do his work from a Super-Spy Fortress on Tuesday, so our first order of business was to build a Super-Spy Fortress. (Sidebar: He’d be a huge fan of Fort Magic, if anyone’s looking to give him a rather expensive gift.) Once the fort was completed, he took his books, a pencil and a battery-powered lamp inside and got to work. I was admitted to the fort to help with math — because today’s lesson introduced a new concept — but he did his handwriting and spelling on his own.
Poppy, meanwhile, chose to work at the table as usual.
Other things that happened on Tuesday:
We finished “Sarah, Plain and Tall” in the morning, and the kids weren’t ready for it to end. Poppy found the conclusion “kind of abrupt.” I love the book, but I agree with her assessment.
We stopped at Sonic on the way home from tae kwon do for slushes. Pete dropped his on the garage floor, and sadness ensued.
Suddenly it was 4pm and there were a few lingering things yet to do. And so the kids did them, and then they were done.
Wednesday
Poppy and Pete did all of their work on Wednesday, but I neglected to write anything down about what we did. I do know that we started our new read-aloud book — “The Best Christmas Pageant Ever” — on Wednesday.
The kids are about halfway through their art class, and they’re starting to bring home projects. The class is focused on “FUNctional art,” and all I’m allowed to say about exactly what they’re doing is this: The grandparents are going to be getting awesome Christmas gifts this year.
Thursday
Sometimes when people learn that we homeschool, they say “Oh, I could never do that! I just don’t have the patience.” To which I laugh and say, “Neither do I,” which is completely true some days.
Yesterday was one of those days.
Yesterday I reached my breaking point after yet another round of the children complaining about their schoolwork. Most days I more-or-less-calmly explain to them that there are things in life they have to do even if they don’t want to, and math/spelling/grammar/writing is one of those things and let’s just get through it and then we’ll move on to something else. Yesterday wasn’t most days, though. Yesterday was the day I yelled and stomped and grounded everyone for life. Yesterday wasn’t pretty.
After I’d apologized to the kids for my tantrum, we talked about my expectations for them. We talked about how frustrating it was for me to be the object of their irritation so often, and we talked about finding and holding on to kindness in all of our hearts. And we agreed that until they show some major improvements in their attitudes, they won’t be using any of our varied electronic devices.
The kids did end up doing the rest of the work without incident, and them karma twisted my back into knots and I spent most of the evening on the couch with a heating pad.
Friday
Poppy and Pete still have a couple of things left to do today, but it’s been a much better day than yesterday was. They’ve been polite to me, and they’ve been kind to one another. They’ve been playing with Pete’s castle set since just after lunch, and no one has asked for permission to play a single video game.
The highlight of the day so far has been our history lesson, in which we took turns being Louis XIV getting ready for his day. The 10-course breakfast included raisins, marshmallows and tortilla chips. I’m relatively certain that isn’t historically accurate, but it was fun anyway.
I have been feeling prickly and raw and small over the last week or so, like a little hedgehog with — I don’t know — a skinned knee whose fellow hedgehogs have been making fun of her hair so she’s holed up in her hedgehole listening to REM and eating croutons straight out of the bag and then cursing the little scratches they make on the roof of her mouth. Something like that. The world news and the national news are cutting me to the core, and also little things that wouldn’t normally bother me are bothering me rather a lot this week. My teeth are clenched and my shoulders are tight, and it seems like other people are feeling the same way.
So I’ve been reading some poetry, looking for that reminder that We’re All The Same and all that. Here are a couple that have hit home and made me feel if not less brittle at least less singular.
The kitchen in the house had a nook for eating, a groove
for the broom behind the door and the woman moved through
it like bathing, reaching ladles from drawers, turning to lift
the milk from the refrigerator while still stirring the pudding,
as if the room and everything in it were as intimate to her as her
body, as beautiful and worthy of her attention as the elbows
which each day she soothed with rose lotion or the white legs
she lifted, again and again, in turn, while watching television.
To be in that room must be what it was like to be the man
next to her at night, or the child who, at six o’clock had stood
close enough to smell the wool of her sweater through the steam,
and later, at the goodnight kiss, could breathe the flavor of her hair —
codfish and broccoli — and taste the coffee, which was darkness
on her lips, and listen then from upstairs to the water running
down, the mattress drifting down the river, a pale moonmark
on the floor, and hear the clink of silverware — the stars, their distant
speaking — and picture the ceiling — the back of a woman kneeling,
covering the heart and holding up the bed and roof and cooling sky.
Maggie Dietz, “The Yellow House, 1978,” from Perennial Fall (Chicago: University of Chicago Press, 2006).
I love the images of the stirring and the distant voices. The domesticity reminds me of Rachel Contreni Flynn’s “The Yellow Bowl,” a copy of which hangs on my wall. What is it with poets and yellow and households?
They got old, they got old and died. But first —
okay but first they composed plangent depictions
of how much they lost and how much cared about losing.
Meantime their hair got thin and more thin
as their shoulders went slumpy. Okay but
not before the photo albums got arranged by them,
arranged with a niftiness, not just two or three
but eighteen photo albums, yes eighteen eventually,
eighteen albums proving the beauty of them (and not someone else),
them and their relations and friends, incontrovertible
playing croquet in that Bloomington yard,
floating on those comic inflatables at Dow Lake,
giggling at the Dairy Queen, waltzing at the wedding,
building a Lego palace on the porch,
holding the baby beside the rental truck,
leaning on the Hemingway statue at Pamplona,
discussing the eternity of art in that Sardinian restaurant.
Yes! And so, quite frankly — at the end of the day —
they got old and died okay sure but quite frankly
how much does that matter in view of
the eighteen photo albums, big ones
thirteen inches by twelve inches each
full of such undeniable beauty?
Mark Halliday, “Quite Frankly,” from Thresherphobe (Chicago: University of Chicago Press, 2013).
I’d categorize this as a “Gather Ye Rosebuds” poem, although that’s maybe not what Halliday meant it to be. I don’t think I’d read any of his work before, but now that I have I really, really connect with it. I also really enjoyed “Wide Receiver” and “Bad People” and “1946,” which made me think of my grandmother.
How have you been lately? Well, I hope, and not at all like a verklempt hedgie.