Idle parenting

Manifesto of the idle parent

  • We reject the idea that parenting requires hard work
  • We pledge to leave our children alone
  • That should mean that they leave us alone, too
  • We reject the rampant consumerism that invades children from the moment they are born
  • We read them poetry and fantastic stories without morals
  • We drink alcohol without guilt
  • We reject the inner Puritan
  • We fill the house with music and laughter
  • We don’t waste money on family days out and holidays
  • We lie in bed for as long as possible
  • We try not to interfere
  • We push them into the garden and shut the door so that we can clean the house
  • We both work as little as possible, particularly when the kids are small
  • Time is more important than money
  • Happy mess is better than miserable tidiness
  • Down with school
  • We fill the house with music and merriment
  • How “idle” is your parenting? There are a few things on the list that don’t apply at our house — I don’t drink, I don’t have a “garden” and I’m not sure what they mean about rejecting the “inner Puritan.” Nevertheless, I love this manifesto. It’s at the end of a Telegraph column titled “Idle Parenting Means Happy Children.” This isn’t the first piece I’ve read lately about the importance of unstructured play, but it is the first I’ve seen that mentions the benefits to the parents. (I love the photos of Mom and Dad reading amidst the chaos.)